When the school calls about a suspension
The call usually comes in the middle of a workday. Here’s what to ask, what to write down, and what not to sign.
Most parents hear about a suspension on the phone, from an assistant principal, with very little detail. It’s hard to think clearly on that call. You don’t have to decide anything during it.
On the call
- Ask what your child is accused of doing, and when.
- Ask how many days the suspension is, and whether a longer one is being considered.
- Ask whether there will be a hearing, and when you’ll get written notice.
- Ask for copies of any statements, reports or video.
The same day
Write down what you were told while it’s fresh: who called, the time, and what they said. Then send a short email to the school that repeats it and asks for the records. Keep it polite and factual.
Before your child writes anything
Schools often ask students for a written statement. If yours hasn’t written one yet, ask the school to wait until you’ve talked with your child, and with a lawyer if you plan to have one.
If your child has an IEP or a 504 plan
A long removal of a student with a disability brings extra protections, including a meeting about whether the behavior came from the disability. Mention the IEP or 504 plan in your email, so it’s in the record from the start.
You can be kind to the person on the phone and still say, “I’ll need that in writing.”
How fast to move
Discipline deadlines are short, and they vary by state. If a long suspension or an expulsion is on the table, call a lawyer the same day.